ALL THE DEETS: My Trip To Bali

ALL THE DEETS: My Trip To Bali

Quotes: 

We travel not to escape life, but so life does not escape us. – unknown

I travel not to go anywhere, but to go. I travel for travel’s sake. The great affair is to move. - Robert Louis Stevenson

The miracle of travel is returning home once again to discover that while everything here seems the same, I am somehow different. – Me

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Affirmations:

There are no limits on the fabulouslessness that my life can be. I create a life I love.

It’s either this or something greater. I am never stuck.

All I am responsible for is the next right step. Many little, right steps over time add up to the life of my dreams.

If I can dream it, I can have it. I let my imagination run wild.

I am a powerful attractor. What I have asked for is on it’s way.

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Vlog:

Hello Lovers!

I am so excited for my newest VLOG! Lots of people have asked me lots of different questions about my trip to Bali so I made you a VIDEO! The video walks you through all my favorite moments of my trip from arriving at the airport to the very last sunset! I included a ton of pictures in the video with explanations. It’s rather entertaining – if I do say so myself.

Also I made you a little list below the video of all the places I stayed, ate, shopped, and relaxed! Consider it your Little Bali Vacay Guide. You now know everything I know. Enjoy!

BONUS! At the end of the video I include a little bonus on how to create a life you love. This tip will get you what you want whether you are traveling the world or lounging at home. You must watch!

 

 

To view the video on YouTube, click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QA5W2PJC3sM

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ALSO – if you want to see ALL my pictures from the trip, click here for my Balinese Life-Changing Moments Photo Album.

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All the Deets:

Money: Bali is definitely among the least expensive places I’ve stayed. Getting there costs a bajillionish dollars (my flight was $1800), but once you are there it’s smoooothe saililng. :) Our bungalow in the Gili’s for example, was less than $60/night. I often had dinner and a drink for $10-$15. Facials were approximately $8. If you are splitting lodging with a friend, you can probably live on approx $50/day.

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Ubud:

Stay: Megan’s House, Duh.

Eat: Atman Kafe, Sari Organik, Clear Cafe, Bali Buda, KAFE

Relax: The Yoga Barn, Holy Springs Water Temple, all the spas (try a milk bath :))

Work: Hubud Co-Working Space

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Trawangan:

Stay: Gili Hideaway

Eat: Scallywags Organic Seafood, Cafe Gili Trawangan, Horizontal, Ecco, Kayu Cafe, The Irish Bar

Relax: The Spa at the Hotel Ombak Sunset, everywhere — all you do in the Gili’s is relax, Gili Yoga

Work: Kayu Cafe (only stable internet on the island — also only air-conditioning I felt the entire trip :))

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Seminyak:

Stay: Ananda Resort

Eat: Cafe Bali, Earth Cafe,

Relax: Potato Head, KuDeTa

Shop: Bamboo Blonde, Kody & Ko, Universo Oberoi, anything on Jl. Raya (the main road)

Work: I did NO work in Seminyak, but Potato Head did have good internet. Megan worked while we were there. :)

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Final Peptalk: Remember you can create a life you LOVE! Many little, right steps over time add up to the life of your dreams! You have big amazing gifts inside of you that the world is desperate for. Do not doubt the gifts God gave you. Go out there and do what you love. That’s what you were made for. You are effing awesome. I love you!

 

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Amanda Frances

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Amanda Frances McKinney is a life-coach, blogger, and therapist. It is her passion to use her education, personal experience, and spiritual practices to contribute to the growth and happiness of others. Her blog, amandafrances.com, was created as a space where her passions of spirit, self-love and style are celebrated. Through her blog and her life-coaching/mentoring practice, Amanda Frances International, she pursues these endeavors. Amanda has a Masters of Science in Counseling from Southern Methodist University and is currently in pursuit of a PhD. She has been featured twice in InStyle Magazine. She is a self proclaimed self-love junkie, yogi, fashionista and international traveler. Learn more: amandafrances.com/coaching.

 

 

 

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Quotes:
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. – Tony Robbins

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. - Mahatma Gandhi

You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well. - Lewis B. Smedes

When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future. -Bernard Meltzer

When you choose to forgive those who have hurt you, you take away their power. – Unknown

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Affirmations:
I forgive you. I release you. I wish you the best. I send you love.

I let go of the hope that the past can be any different.

I know the past HAS happened. I am free from its drama and its pain.

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We all know the saying, “You can’t change the past.” And while this statement is obviously true, it doesn’t always feel very helpful.

It’s like, “Well, duh. Obvi.”

I know I can’t change the past. I can’t change the past just like I can’t change the number of days in the week (I’ve always felt like there should be 8), another person (if you are trying to change someone – stop), or the fact that for some reason God felt like I should be a brunette (It just doesn’t make any sense — really God?).

But that hasn’t always stopped me from wanting to. We all, at some point, have wished that we could take back the hurtful words, the painful memories, or the regret of the past. We have all experiences moments where our hearts were disregarded or we carelessly disregarded someone else’s heart.

You know you can’t change the past, but you still feel the hurt.

I remember several years ago I was struggling with this concept: big time. I had been in therapy for well over a year and I felt like I was just circling over the same issue over and over and over. Yes, I hurt. Yes, they hurt me. Yes, I can’t change it. SO NOW WHAT? I was so tired of dealing with it and “working through it” that I could scream. ((And y’all know I believe in therapy — obvi… I’m a therapist now.)) I am sure the therapist was just letting me be in the process, but OMG I could not have sat with that pain one more second.

As always, as I endured and continued to engage in the process of healing, the Universe brought me what I needed. I was driving in the car. I had a little children in the back seat (shout out to all the nannies & moms in the world — raising babies is hard work) and Oprah radio was on. And what I heard changed my absolute life.

The expert on the show suggested that those struggling with the past regard it as something that “HAS happened. Not just as something “that happened” but something “that HAS happened.”

I remember it struck me like a knife. “Has happened.” If it has happened then… it’s over. It’s done. It is gone. It already happened. It can’t hurt me anymore. The expert-guy went on to say, “Unforgiveness is holding on to the hope that the past could have been any different.”

And my life was changed.

I now know a moment like that to called a Quantum-Shift which just means a moment where a piece of information or insight changes everything. You have a major shift in perception. You see everything differently.

That moment opened me up. I was able to see that I was holding on to hope for something that could never be. The past can not be different. Being sad, angry, or resentful could not help me or protect me. Nothing could be done to change any of it.

I know y’all have heard the saying the unforgiveness is like pointing a gun at yourself hoping it hurts someone else — or something like that. Unforgiveness is intended to get back at the other person and/or protect yourself, but it does neither. Unforgiveness causes you to keep people out. It causes you to build a wall up around you. And with every one else on the other side of the wall, you don’t just reduce the changes of being hurt, but you reduce the chances of experiencing love, joy, and gratitude too.

After my Quantum-Shift moment, I was able to forgive. And not only forgive, but eventually empathize. I remember sitting at a cafe in New York eating a really great salad and writing in my new journal a few weeks later and found myself feeling sad for them. Realizing that they had a life and many painful experiences that led them to treating me like they did, made me hurt for them.

It’s hard to stay resentful toward someone who you feel sad for.

The only thing I felt after that was the hope that they would heal and find a better way.

I actually felt hope for their healing. I wanted the best for them.

So if you are thinking, “Uh. Yeah, good for you, but that doesn’t really help me.” Then I have a few pieces of advice.

1. Become willing to forgive. 
You may effing hate that idiot, but when you let the Universe/God/Yourself know you are willing to forgive, you will be given the steps. My steps were therapy, Oprah radio, and a great salad in the Meat Packing District. The Universe will work with what you got.

2. Integrate this info. 
Say it with me: I has happened. It is over. It is in the past. They can’t hurt me now, because I am stronger now. I know better now. I don’t need now what I needed then. I let it go.

3. Release them. 
Oh girl, I promise you, your mantra for the rest of your life when you are feeling hurt: “I forgive you. I release you. I wish you the best. I send you love.” It may sting a little to say it at first ;) It will get easier.

 

So maybe It doesn’t matter if your childhood could have been different, if your last relationship could have been different, if that principal, teacher, parent, coach, love, best-friend, or boss could have been different. Not because you don’t deserve the best (you absolutely totally do!) It doesn’t matter simply because it’s over.

All you can do from here is forgive, release, lear your lesson, let go, and move the eff on.

You don’t need closure. You don’t need an apology. You don’t need the person to right the wrong.

Those things won’t help.

As my therapist back then used to say, “No one can do for you now, what they didn’t do for you then.” You don’t need them now like you needed them then. Even if they could do now what they didn’t then… it wouldn’t help.
I suspect that as you let go of the hopeless hope that the past can still change, you’ll be able to focus on TODAY. And tomorrow. And the next day.

Maybe you’ll be able to live in the here and now, enjoy what you’ve got and loving how far you’ve come.

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Letting go of the past & living bigger than ever,

Amanda Frances

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Amanda Frances McKinney is a life-coach, blogger, and psychotherapist. It is her passion to use her education, personal experience, and spiritual practices to contribute to the growth and happiness of others. Her blog, amandafrances.com, was created as a space where her passions of spirit, self-love and style are celebrated. Through her blog and her life-coaching practice, Amanda Frances International, she pursues these endeavors. Amanda has a Masters of Science in Counseling from Southern Methodist University and is currently in pursuit of a PhD. She has been featured twice in InStyle Magazine. She is a self proclaimed self-love junkie, yogi, fashionista and international traveler. Learn more: amandafrances.com/coaching

 

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by health & confidence coach,
Ashley Donovan

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Quotes: 

“Weight measures your relationship with gravity. That’s it. It does not give you an overall picture of muscle mass, body fat, inches lost, etc. It especially can not measure your worth, beauty or health. Keep in mind that weight is just a number.” - Amanda Frances (via this post)

“Get off the scale! I have yet to see a scale that can tell you how enchanting your eyes are. I have yet to see a scale that can show you how wonderful your hair looks when the sun shines its glorious rays on it. I have yet to see a scale that can thank you for your compassion, sense of humor, and contagious smile. Get off the scale because I have yet to see one that can admire you for your perseverance when challenged in life… Don’t give the scale more power than it has earned. Take note of the number, then get off the scale and live your life. You are beautiful!” - Steve Maraboli

“The human body is the best work of art.” - Jess C. Scott

“Your problem is you’re … too busy holding onto your unworthiness.” 
- Ram Dass

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

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Affirmations:

I am enough because I am.

I am beautiful. I am strong. I am woman.

I embrace my uniqueness. I do not try to squish myself into a mold. I love me the way I am.

 

 

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My palms are a bit sweaty just thinking about writing this to you. As much as I talk about loving my body and loving myself no matter what the size announcing to the world what my size actually is, feels horrifying. It’s a strange thing though because anyone that has met me clearly can see my body – so why am I so afraid to just say what size it is?

Here’s the thing – I have this belief that in order to be a good health coach I need to be a size 2. I’m finally admitting to myself that being a size 2 will never be in my future. I’ve never been a size 2 – never. I’m not sure it’s physically possible.

I’ve realized that I am so much happier at the size I am now – a size 10 – then I’ve ever been at an 8 or my thinnest at a size 6. Why? Because every time I’ve been a size 8 or size 6 I’ve starved myself or have otherwise been very unhealthy about getting there. I’ve also been obsessed about being “there” (a certain size) than actually enjoying my life.

Being comfortable in my skin, eating out with friends and family on special occasions, having a happy and meaningful life means so much more to me than my pant size. 

I have let the fact that I am a size 10 health coach hold me back. This fear has actually stopped me from taking action on something I am extremely passionate about.

I’m thankful for this. It has driven me to learn as much as I can about excess weight, weight loss and emotional eating. I’ve learned that excess weight has nothing to do with calories in, calories out. I’ve learned so much about the divine feminine as a way to weight loss. I’ve learned about having a pleasurable life as being the only kind to live. Without what I viewed as being a weight problem, I would never have come to learn or explore these things. I might have spent the rest of my life much like I’ve spent it for the last 15 years or so – criticizing my body, judging it, feeling like it’s wrong, obsessing about being a different size, wishing my body was different and hating that it wasn’t. The anger and disgust I have felt towards the size and shape of my body makes me oh so sad. We women and now men feel like we have to be a certain size to feel any sense of loving kindness and self worth.

I think about all of the nasty feelings and thoughts I’ve had towards my body and I think about my daughter. How awful I would feel if she grew up with those same feelings and thoughts towards what I view as the most precious and perfect being on this earth. And what if she’s a size 10 or 12 or 20, would I love her any less? Hell no! Why do we then love ourselves any less because of our size?

And would I expect her to not pursue her dreams or to play small until she was a smaller size? That would be ridiculous.

Let’s stop doing this to ourselves. Next time you think you need to be a different size, next time you criticize your body, next time you berate yourself for being a certain shape think about a young girl. What would you say to her? Then say that to yourself. 

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I know sometimes we have to mourn a little when we realize we might never look like the airbrushed model in the magazine. I know I had to. I still have to once and awhile. It has been so ingrained in me (and I’m guessing you too) to try to look like that. It’s sad to think of how many hours, days, weeks, months have been wasted. All of that wasted energy trying to be something I’m not. When in reality I know I’m beautiful just the shape and size that I am. I also know that I’m beautiful regardless of my physical form. I just had to uncover (and sometimes rediscover) that deep love that has been there all along.

I want you to have that too.

I want you to know that you’re beautiful no matter what shape or size you are. I want you to know that you don’t have to hide behind your weight or your body. I want you to know that the image you think you need to look like, isn’t real. The person in the mirror here and now – that is real. And she needs to be loved. She’s begging for you to love her, just the way she is.

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

Love,

Ashley

 

Ashley Donovan is Confidence Coach focused on getting you un-stuck so that you can be the person you know you’re meant to be. Ashley received her bachelors degree in Psychology and then went on to become a Certified Health Coach from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. She is certified with the American Association of Drugless Practitioners and is a trained Doula. Her work includes anything from eating the foods you know you should so you can lose that extra weight, quitting the job you know you should so you can follow your passion or getting out of a relationship you know you shouldn’t be in so you can make room for prince (or princess) charming.

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