Look at the beautiful day you made!
I am so obsessed with and inspired by your Self Love Saturday uploads and shares! It was amazing to see how you honored, enjoyed, loved, and appreciated yourselves on Saturday. Most importantly, you let yourself be. You let yourself feel good enough about you to be okay being with yourself and treating yourself well! Woo-hoo!
Below are my ideas for changing the world, adding more love to your life, and how the two ideas are actually one…
… but first, your incredible LOVE moments ….
Thankful heart = happy life. As I’ve said before; any area in which you are not grateful, you can never be happy. Being thankful for the air in your lungs, paint on your toes and the wine in your glass is a very different experience than feeling unappreciative and entitled as you sit in the wonderful massage chair at the nail salon. You can steal the joy right out of your self-love when the focus is on entitlement instead of awe and appreciation.
Judgement/Guilt Free Zone. Let it all go. Every negative thought about yourself. Each thought that replays in your mind creating a crazy-as-hell story that you are not enough. All your self-judgement. All your guilt and “shoulds” and “what-ifs” and “supposed-tos.” I am being your friend and giving you permission to be nothing but you for AT LEAST one hour of self-love each week. When those small-minded ideas that tell you that you are anything but a beautiful creation pop up, simply say, “I am enough. I am enough.”
Selfish My Butt. I’ve had some interesting feedback concerning self-love. Some have told me that I have the wrong focus. That I should be promoting charity and service of others. They say that we are already selfish enough and that paying more attention to ourselves will not help. The idea that we are to deny ourselves to take care of others misses the point completely. The truth is that not taking care of ourselves and not taking care of others are not two separate issues. There is one issue: a lack of love. You are not separate from anyone else. We are all one. As I take care of myself, I am contributing to the care of the whole. As I clear my mind, love myself, let me be me, and work through my stuff… I am able to help others do the same things. If I do not do my work of self-care and personal growth, I can not be the person I am called to be. As Marianne Williamson said, “As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”
The Secret Behind the Day. This is not about mani-pedis or sleeping in. (Though I personally think both are vital.) This is about being present in your existence. This is about letting yourself feel good enough for good things. This is about self-acceptance. This is about creating a world where we feel enough love for ourselves – where separating, attacking, judging and hating each other is no longer necessary. This is about spreading love to the whole wide world. As Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
We can not love or accept each other until we love and accept ourselves.
PS: If you want to join the next self-love Saturday and would like to connect with our community of Self-Lovers email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or message me on facebook or twitter. I’d be happy to add you to our Facebook Group where the love is shared!!!